Sometimes there's an intense desire to correct the other person, to assert oneself--especially when that person is in "counselling" mode. I fall prey to it many times, and the result is always burnt fingers, hurt egoes and pride--a bitter taste all around.
I got a live masterclass in how to handle this shit. Just nod and agree to whatever is said and suggested, especially when the other person is a belligerent motormouth. Don't waste your energy trying to convince the other, or assert yourself and make yourself clear--simply because the other won't agree and you're wasting everyone's time and energy. Just nod and agree, and quickly end the arguement or discussion. Then get back to your life and do WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANNA DO.
Peace of mind all around.
(of course, I'm still learning to implement this fully, old habits die hard)
Or you could say "Sorry, but I don't agree. Maybe we should change the subject?"
ReplyDeleteYes, your suggestion works for simple cases. But there are chronic counselors who want to 'reform' you and change your world view.
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